I haven't jumped off the band wagon yet!

It's been about a week since I realized that maybe doing adoption first was the way to go. And even after a week, I haven't changed my mind yet. I wasn't sure if it would be a fleeting thought or not. It's not looking like it will be. The only thing that sucks is that if we go this route, we can't even get anything started until we get to our next duty station. We're hopefully moving in about 6 months, then it will take several months to get things going. Which means it will probably be at least another year before anything comes about. For now, all I can do is read, do my research, and talk to other people who have been in my situation and already gone through it. Online support groups and forums are amazing for that!

I called my Mom today and was talking to her about it. She was very supportive and excited at the prospect of a future grandbaby! (They still don't have any! My brother and his wife suffer with IF as well, and my two sisters aren't quite ready for babies yet). But then came the dreaded phrase, "Well maybe once you adopt, maybe it'll help you relax and take your mind off of it, and you'll get pregnant! I've heard that happens a lot." For those of you who are not aware, that phrase is just as bad as, "Just relax and stop thinking about it." or "Everything will happen in God's time" or "Once you quit trying, that's when it will happen". For anyone who is dealing with infertility, those words, or anything simiarl, are the worst thing you can say to them. So before we even begin our journey to adoption, I'm just going to go ahead and put that out there! IF is a medical condition, not a mental thing.

We usually don't have much going on, but the next month or so is going to be busy! This Sunday, we're going to a Seattle Seahawks game for Kyle's birthday! His actual birthday is a week from Wednesday. Well have a small family dinner party that night. The weekend after that, Kyle is planning a date night for us! He's so cute! Not sure what we're going to do. But because it's his doing, I know I will love it! Two weekends after that we have company coming in. One of our good friends from high school and his wife are coming out to visit! We are really looking forward to seeing them! And the following weekend, we're going down to Olympia to spend time with Kyle's Aunt Amy! We love getting to see her! But we're sad that our only family in the area is moving out of state in December! Fortunately, we won't be too far behind her!

Anyways, I hope all is well with everyone! Feel free to comment and let me know that you're reading! Aunt Linda and Jules are the only two that consistently comment! But my tracker says that there are a lot more of you reading! Don't judge me! I'm nosy! Hehe! Who are my readers from Bothell and from Port Orchard?? I haven't been able to figure that one out yet!

Perhaps...

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately. Normal. But I've been thinking a lot about Kyle's point of view, wanting to go the adoption route verses IVF. We will only have one shot. If we do IVF first and it fails or gets cancelled then that's it. We will have to wait several more years before we can try something else. Do I ask risk it? I know that adoption is not fool proof either. And if we were to get matched with a birth mother, and something were to happen, then we would also be out a baby and all of the money. But, statistically we have a better chance of bringing home a baby with adoption, as opposed to in vitro. We haven't made any decisions yet. It's just something that I am actually considering. Whereas before, I was completely against adoption until I had at least tried IVF. That was always the plan. Exhaust all other options first. Now I just don't know if I can take that risk. I am ready for a baby. I've been ready for years! I don't think I could keep waiting for years to come. If we do decide to go the adoption route, we can't even start anything though, until we get to Charleston. It would be pointless to start anything here. I guess in the meantime, I'll just keep hoping and praying that maybe, just maybe, somehow, I will get pregnant.

Kyle makes me smile!

I have the most amazing husband! He is just so utterly fantastic! Even after almost 8 years together, the man still gives me butterflies, and he knows how to sweep me off of my feet with words! Kyle is definitely not known for his romantic gestures, but he sure does know how to sweet talk me! He constantly reminds me how much he loves me! And he always tells me how beautiful he thinks I am. And how lucky he is! ::swoon:: I love that we don't argue often. And when we do, it almost always ends quickly. And it never ends with any yelling or vicious name calling. If we are ever given the chance, I know he will be the most amazing father! I really don't think that there is another man out there who is more perfect for me! He is my Boo. My one and only. Always and forever.

Breathe. Stretch. Shake. Let it go.

After having a bit of a meltdown last week, I'm feeling much better. I'm back in the acceptance phase. I come and go from it quite often. But for now, I am just going to be happy with what I do have, not sad for what I don't. I have an amazing husband who loves me so much! He is so great to me, and is my rock. I have fantastic friends who accept me for me, and put up with my shit, on a daily basis! And that can't be easy! I have a wonderful family! Even though they are so far away, they support me emotionally and are always there to listen to me cry! Life is good! Yes, it would be that much better with a baby, but for now, it's just Kyle and I. And we should continue to enjoy it being just the two of us! We can go somewhere at the drop of a dime. We don't have to worry about finding childcare, or packing 10 million extra things, or waking up in the middle of the night, or even having to share our food with tiny little hands that like to have what's on your plate! Hehe! And while I will be thrilled to death when I do have to deal with those things, for now, I will enjoy the peace and quiet of this house.

I finished my first back. And it was such a great read! I got the other book, the budgeting for IF one, and it's not nearly as entertaining. Imagine that! Ha! But I'm still holding out hope that once it gets past explaining all of the stuff that I already know, I might can actually learn something from it.

For now, I am off to bed! Kyle had duty last night, so I'm looking forward to snuggling with him tonight! I hope everyone has a fun and safe holiday weekend!

3 years.

Today is the first day of September. Which means, three years ago this month, we started down the road to beginning our family. I always thought it would take awhile. But never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that three years from then, that we would have nothing to show for it all. I am a mess today. I am so emotionally drained. All day yesterday and today, I have been fighting back tears constantly. I haven't wanted to talk to or see anyone. I was barely able to make it through a conversation with Kyle when he called from work. Unfortunately, I cannot lay in bed, in my own self pity, all day because I have to work. Everytime I feel tears starting to come on, I run into the bathroom and fan my face and bite back the tears. This sucks. I don't know what to do. I'm lost. I knew that arriving on this date would be tough, but this is way worse than expected.

I got one of my new books in the mail yesterday, Navigating the Land of If: Understanding Infertility and Exploring Your Options. It is a great book and has definitely been somewhat comforting to know that there are others out there. I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who is dealing with infertility.

There was one section that really hit close to home. It was about me being able to be sad for me, but happy for someone who has recently gotten good news. This is the one thing that I have had the most trouble with. Anytime I find out that another friend is expecting (and this is a BIG number, since it's been 3 years!), I have always needed a little space. I tend to push the person away for a period of time. But I do this not just for me, but for them as well. I push them away so that my sad isn't raining on their parade of happy. And every single time, I have always gotten the same reaction from that person, angry and hurt! They get angry and hurt at me! They are hurt because I need space. Because I couldn't be excited. And every single time, I always feel bad for making them feel bad. But then I realize, hello! I am hurt too! I am hurt that they are getting what I want so very badly. And they have the nerve to tell me that, I hurt them? I don't get it. And neither do they. We will never be able to see each other's side of the fence. But the last nine months, I have gotten a lot better about it. I have been able to be happy for them, but still sad for me, at the same time. I just never had to words to articulate that, until I read it in the book. I'm sure there are going to be many more pregnancy and birth announcements before/if I ever get the chance to announce my own. And it's something that will always be hard for me. But hopefully next time, I can explain a little better how/why I feel this way...

Now I'm just going off on a tangent. The point of this blog is that today, I am not okay. And probably not tomorrow either. I don't know when I will be. But hopefully soon, I can pull myself out this and get back on the path to exiting the land of infertility...

Update. Kind of.

I had my doctor's appointment on Friday. And it went exactly like I was expecting it to. Dr. Bob told us that there really isn't much else he can do, and that it is probably time to move on to in-vitro. I've known this. But it was nice for Kyle to hear it from someone other than me. After we got home, I got on the Seattle Reproductive Medicine website. I found a link to email someone about the entire financial aspect of visits, tests, ect. I knew approximately what a round of IVF costs. But it's not like you show up one time, and then that's all you pay. So I needed to know what we would be getting ourselves into. I received this email back this morning. It was yet another smack in the face (You think I would be used to these by now, considering how often it happens!), but at least we have an idea now. Here's what he said:

Hi Tiffany,
Thanks for the inquiry. Our general estimate for IVF can range from $16,000 - $19,000. The cost of the IVF cycle is $10,436, medications can run from $3000 - $6000. As far as office visits and pre cycle evaluations, it depends on what you've done in the past and what you may have to update.

New Patient visit is $350.
If the doctor does anything else at this visit then it's an additional charge.
Ultrasounds range from $175 - $220
Blood work prices vary. It depends on the blood work
Injection Teaching Class is $50
Consent signing consult is $250 - $300
Uterine Evaluations cane range from $600 - $800
Semen Analysis is $125
Once again this all depends on what our physisican recommends and what you've done in the past. Hope this helps
-Bill

Why does it all have to be so expensive? Why can't I just get pregnant for free, like everyone else. Or why can't I just accept the fact that we can't afford it, and get over it, and live a childless life? Kyle and I have a good life together. It's just the two of us. We can go where we want when we want, without having to worry about anything. We're really great together. And because of everything we've been through together in the past almost 8 years, we are incredibly strong. We would make amazing parents. Both of us. That is, if ever given the opportunity.

Motherhood is this exclusive club. And it's like when you're little and your friends start a club, but won't let you in. That's how I feel. I am one of the very few of my friends that don't have kids. I feel like I'm standing alone, outside in the cold, looking in. Looking in on something that I can never have. Sometimes they come out to share little bits and pieces, secrets almost, about their club. But then they run back inside. And slam the door in my face. Too bad we can't afford the $20,000 plus membership fee. Not right now anyways. Maybe someday...

Life Lessons.

I got this in an email from Kyle's Mema Linda. And I figured these rules can apply to any and every life! I know more than several hit close to home for me! Enjoy!


Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio.
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:"
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends & parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood.The 2nd one is up to you & no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In 5 years, will this matter?".
26. Always choose life.
27. Forgive everyone everything.
28. What other people think of you is none of your business.
29. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
31. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
32. Believe in miracles.
33. People love you because of who you are.
34. Don't audit life. Show up & make the most of it now.
35. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
36. Your children get only one childhood.
37. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
38. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
40. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
41. The best is yet to come.
42. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up & show up.
43. Yield.
44. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
45. Remember that I will always share my spoon with you! Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves.

I heart new books!

I just ordered a couple of new books from Amazon. I got Navigating the Land of If: Understanding Infertility and Exploring Your Options by Melissa Ford, and I also purchased Budgeting for Infertility: How to Bring Home a Baby Without Breaking the Bank by Evelina W Sterling. I've good things about the first one. Not familiar with the second one, but was recommended on one of the blogs I follow. I figure that since cost is our number one factor that is stoppping us from IVF, maybe we can learn something helpful! Either way, I love reading, and this will give me some new material.

Going to see Dr. Bob on Friday! Don't worry! I'll be sure to update afterwards! Fingers crossed for something useful!

I like this.

I've come across these quotes, and I think they all apply to our situation, in one way or another. After my hateful attituide yesterday, I figured an upper might be more appropriate today.

"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place" ~Unknown~

"I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles, even when her heart is broken. And the girl who could always brighten your day, even when she couldn't brighten her own."

"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass...it is about learning to dance in the rain."

"There are no shortcuts to any place worth going."

"The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be." -Horace Bushnell

"Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true."
-Leon J. Suenes

"Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it." -Bill Cosby

"Never let go of hope. One day you will see that it has all finally come together. What you have always wished for has finally come to be. You will look back and laugh at what has passed and you will ask yourself...'How did I get through all of that?'"

Yesterday, I called and scheduled another appointment with Dr. Bob. Even though, at this point, I've kind of let go of hope, Kyle is still holding on. He wants me to take him with me to the appointment so that he can talk with the doctor. It's really important to Kyle, so I'll humor him. Though I really don't think Bob is going to do anything more than he already has. Maybe when we can finally get to see some better doctors, my hope will come back. But for now, they've kind of disapated. And please don't give me the whole, "don't lost hope, blah blah blah" lines. It's been three years. I have every right to feel the way I do.

Today is just a very angry, bitter day. Towards everything, not just trying to get pregnant. Hopefully it's gone by tomorrow.

Surprise surprise.

The first month back was a fail. Not that I'm surprised. I fully expected it not to work. I started my second round of Femara on Wednesday. And once again, I'm not expecting to get pregnant this month. I just have a feeling that this isn't what I need. Next month, after my period shows up, and I call my doctor's office to get more meds, I'm going to make an appointment to go back in to talk to Dr. Bob again. This time Kyle wants to come with me. We're going to see if after two unsuccessful rounds(and by two, I mean more like 15!), he'll move on to something else. And if not, maybe at that point we can be able to go down to SRM.

Next month will be the three year mark of trying to get pregnant. It's going to be hard. And it's not getting any easier. Starting in October, the first friend of mine that is pregnant is due. And then it seems like every few weeks after her, it will be someone else's turn to go into labor. This is going to keep happening, one after the other until at least into March or April. And I guarentee, during that time, more friends and people I know are going to turn up pregnant. I'm certain I'm going to be fairly miserable. I have recently realized that I am so very close to being that woman who bursts into tears at the site of babies or bellies. I do not want to be her, but I can feel it coming. I feel really awful for whoever is with me when that happens. It is not going to be cute.

Today, I was in Babies R Us with one of my pregnant friends. That store loves to rip my heart to pieces. But I put myself into the position to be tortured. I dont' know why, but I do. I'm surprised I held my shit together in there. But I did. And I made it out alive.

Anyways, I hadn't updated in awhile, and I figured it was about time. Nothing new to report, as usual. I really hope to one day be able to announce that I am finally pregnant...but I'm not quite sure that day will ever come...

And so on and so forth...

Normally I don't copy and paste my blogs, but I'm in a foul mood and don't feel like retyping, so here's what's going on:

I am so frustrated right now. I had my first appointment since January today, with Dr. Bob. I was really hoping that we could try some new things or have some more ideas. But no, of course not. He wants to do the same thing as before. And the said after 2-3 cycles on this regimen, if nothing happens, then maybe we can try some more testing. Umm...excuse me? Seriously? It's been almost 3 years. How many more months does this man need?! And everything that I had planned on discussing with him went right out of the window when I heard that. I almost started bawling in his office. But I held my shit together because I had the boys right outside the door waiting on me. I'm just so upset. I've been crying all afternoon. I just don't get why this has to be so hard. So I guess for now, the game plan is to do it his way for a few months, and then after September, when Kyle gets his raise, maybe I can finally get a referral to Seattle Reproductive Medicine. That's what I really want...but hey, since when do I ever get what I want? Guess like with everything else, only time will tell. More waiting. Imagine that. I don't know why I thought that starting to try again would be a good idea, or for that fact, that it would be easy...

On another note, I started my new nanny job yesterday. It's going well. The two boys, 6 and 9, are pretty well behaved boys. And they are super cute too! They have a few attitude issues, but what kid doesn't? And they fight, but hey, that's to be expected. I really like the whole family. They're all very nice! It's so nice to be working again!

Kyle is STILL over in Bremerton. He's been there a week and half now. He was only supposed to be gone 4 days. Clearly that didn't work out. And what sucks is we don't know when he'll be home. Hopefully in the next day or two, but how many times have I said that in the last week? And then, on top of that, he has to go back on Monday or Tuesday, and do the same thing for the other plant! And like before, it's only scheduled for 4 days. Yah, I bet!

Anyways, I'm done for now. Clearly I am not in a good mood today. Suck.

Dr. Bob, here I come!

After getting the run around from Tricare and several doctor offices in the area, I realized that hardly anyone covers Tricare, especially when it comes to GYNs with an infertility speciality. I found one that cover Tricare standard, but I'm on Prime. And if you go down to Standard, you are locked into it for a year. No thanks. So after much frustration, I have decided to just go back to Dr. Bob. This time, I plan on vocalizing what I want, and see if we can accomplish something this time. And if not, hopefully in a few months we'll be able to go to SRM finally! I got my referral and made an appointment. I'm going to go see Dr. Bob on the 30th. Hopefully it goes well! Guess we'll see!

Hooray!

I got the job! No more being unemployed for this girl! I had my interview with the family today. Things went really well. Apparently, Heather already had her mind made up that she loved me! But she told me that she had to interview one other girl, just because. Haha! And then she called me around 5:30 or so, and confirmed it! Then she asked if I would mind coming over tonight for a dry run, and baby-sit while they went on a date night. The older boy, Cobe, was spending the night at a friend's house, so it was just Chase and I. We got along great! He seems like a good kid! Anyways, I officially start on June 29th, once they get back from their family vacay to Florida. But I will be so glad to be working again! Finally!!

A few things.

First of all, Kyle and I have decided that our break from trying is going to be over soon. I decided against waiting to go to SRM. And yesterday I called my doctor about a referral to another fertility doctor that was in our insurance network. I told her I would like to see someone different than before. She was going to do some research and call me back either today or Monday. Hopefully she'll find someone that we like!! Kyle was more than thrilled when I told him I was ready to start trying again. He didn't want to quit in the first place, but I needed that break. Guess we'll see where things go from here!

Secondly, I had/have three interviews this week for jobs!! Yesterday and today were for two different daycare centers. And tomorrow, I have one for a nanny job. I'm really hoping the nanny one works out, it would be my first choice! And then on Monday, I go for a "working interview" for the daycare I interviewed at yesterday. They'll put me in the classroom with the kids and see how it goes. I'm really hoping at least one of the places want to hire me! I have been unemployed for entirely too long!! ::fingers crossed::

Thirdly, it is looking really good for us to be out of here by April-ish of next year!! Kyle has been doing all of the paper work that needs to be done and talking to the right people. We should have a better idea in the next couple of months as to when for sure. But for now, that is what we're hoping for! YAY!!

Anyways, those are the highlights for now! I'll keep you posted on the doctor and the jobs and orders as I find them out!

Just say hello!

I know I get a lot of views on my blog. But I don't know who reads it! Please just comment and say hello! I'd like to know who my audience is. Even if I don't know you, say hi! I won't think you're a weirdo! Haha! There are several blogs that I follow, that I have no idea who they are! I just enjoy reading.

Anyways, thanks for stopping by! And I appreciate you taking the time to read my blog.

Bummer.

I found out a good friend from back home is pregnant. They weren't even trying yet, about to start. She had told my Mom that she was nervous about telling me. But she did not seem all that concerned when she shouted it out on my Myspace. I just don't get it. Why is it so easy for some? Here we are, wanting it more than anything. We want a family so bad that we are getting ready to drop at least $15,000 on a CHANCE that we might get pregnant. And that's if we go IVF. It'll be more if we do adoption. Fifteen THOUSAND dollars. That is so much money. But we are more than willing to pay it. I just hate this.

I'm back at the point where I've been thinking about starting back trying again. But the thing is that I want to do it right this time. I want the best doctors, which means going to Seattle Reproductive Medicine. They are phenomenol there. I have heard nothing but good. But they don't accept Tricare(even though Tricare doesn't cover infertility treatments, they do cover diagnosis, office visits, and usually lab work when it's accepted by the doctor) which means everything will be out of pocket. And we can't afford to do that just yet. Hopefully I can find a job soon. Kyle just made rank, and should start getting paid for it sometime in the next few months. And plus, with his re-enlistment bonus, assuming we still go that route, that will all help. But we have to wait until that all comes together.

I'm just so tired of waiting. Waiting for something that might take years. Waiting for something that might not ever happen. And I'm tired of always complaining about this whole thing. Ugh. At least, posting it here, only the people who want to read it will. As opposed to posting it on Myspace where you never know what you're going to get in a blog. I don't feel bad putting it up on Blogger because the people who read it know what this blog is for. But I can't quit complaining, but it hasn't stopped hurting. Maybe it will one day. But probably not.

Anyways, I guess I'm done for now. I need to suck it up and go try to be productive.

My monthly whining sesh.

So I'm sitting here editing photos. Today I had a photoshoot of a one month old and his parents. He is such a cutie, and I loved taking his pictures and loving on him! While doing so today, I was able to stay pre-occupied enough to stay distracted and not think about it. But now, as I'm going through the pictures, my heart starts hurting. And I know it's because my period is right around the corner, so I'm extra emotional. And if you notice in my blogs, they're always about a month apart. Its always this time of month when the sadness of not having a baby of our own hits me hard, and I feel the need to blog it out.

For the past couple of weeks I've been kind of torn. Part of me wants to start trying again...but part of me knows that I'm not ready, and that more than likely, it'll do no good anyways. We've been on a break for close to 6 months now. And we are rapidly coming up on the 3 year mark of this journey. Three years. Wow. Even I can't believe it. Why do I have to be such an emotional person? Why can't I be more stoic? Why am I still letting this get me down?

In my circle of friends, I am surrounded by pregnant women and women with newborns. And another handful of them that are trying. Which of course, most of them will be pregnant before long. And that just counts people that I hang out, not other people that I associate with, or know! I can't help but think of all of the pregncies and births I have seen so many go through since I started. But at least now, I'm happy for them all. I usually wasn't before. I'm at, and have been for awhile, the point where I have accepted that it might not be in our cards to have a baby. It doesn't mean that it still doesn't hurt. But I know that this is a reality. Three years is a long time for nothing to have happened. ::shrugs:: Maybe this fall, we'll try IVF. Maybe we'll go straight to adoption. We still haven't decided. It is an incredibly difficult decision that we have not made yet. As with everything, only time will tell. And on the upside, at least there is only one week a month where I really think about this whole ordeal and cry over it. For the rest of the time, I usually handle it really well, and am okay with the fact that we are still taking a break. But there is always that little part wondering when we'll go back...

Full of fail.

That's how I'm feeling these days. Why is it that it is so freakin' easy for most women to get pregnant. And I can't. The one thing that I want more than anything I can't have. I feel like such a failure. I'm failing myself. I'm failing my family. And most of all, I'm failing Kyle. He wants to be a Dad as much as I want to be a Mom. And that is a lot. And he is going to be an incredible Dad. Some day. But I have no idea when or how far off that day is.

It seems like every week, I find out someone else is pregnant. The list just keeps growing. And all of these pregnant women that I know, and all of the women who have just recently gave birth, they all get pregnant so easily. Most of them were either on accident or only trying for a few months. I have not been on birth control since January of 2006. And September 2006 when Kyle got home from Rhode Island is when we started trying. Two and a half years. Two and a half years!

The past few months with us not trying, I have been holding my shit together really well. But lately, it's slowly unraveling. And I can't stop it or fix it. And no, trying to get pregnant again is not an option to fix it. Why do I have to want this so much? Why can't I just say to myself, "You know Tiffany, it's not that big of a deal that you can't get pregnant. Get over it. Move on." Why can't it be that easy?? I'm not a bad person. I know I'm going to be a great Mom. But when?

I'm tired of disappointment. I'm tired of being broken hearted. I'm tired of crying.

Just another thing to think about...

Somehow, I don't know how, but I have never thought of this option before. But someone recently brought it up, and the more I think about it, the more I think I might like the idea...
I always assumed we would do in-vitro, then if it didn't work, move onto adoption. But I also knew that if that were the case, it would be at least a couple of years after IVF until we could afford to adopt. Kyle and I are both going to be 25 this fall. That would mean that we would be close to, if not past 30 by the time we could adopt and start our family! That's not we want. We started young for a reason! Anyways, someone suggested if we had thought about adopting first, and then doing IVF down the road. At first, I was like no. I want to try all of my options first. But the more I think about it, the more appealing it is. We could potentially start our family sooner! But of course, I haven't talked to Kyle about it yet...not sure what he will think...he is definitely the guy who always said he didn't see a reason why we should not be able to get pregnant in this day and age, and wanted to exhaust all other resources first. He will be home in a few days and we will sit down and discuss it...And it also depends on our finances. Same thing as with IVF, adoption is extremely expensive. So I'm not sure exactly when we would be able to afford it...I just need to win the lottery so we can afford to start our family!!

I know I haven't updated here in awhile. But I haven't had much to blog about as far as trying to get pregnant goes, seeing as how we aren't trying right now. I'm still not ready to go back to it.

But I guess I can give updates on other aspects of our life! Earlier this week, Kyle and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary!! And then a few days later was our 7 year anniversary of being together! Where does the time go?? We had a great day together though!!
Kyle works a lot. The ship is going out later this week, but only for a week. Then home for about a week, before the ship heads to the other side of the sound for it's shipyard period. They are going to be over there until at least the end of the year. Maybe longer. I'm still waiting to hear back about the daycare job. Apparently the have two 2nd interviews sometime this week, so no decision has been made. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they liked me best!!

My parents are going to be here in just over a month!! I can't wait to show them the Seattle area!! They will be here for a week!

Anyways, other than that, we don't have much going on! Hope all is well with everyone else!

Not over it...

Just when I started to finally feel better about things, and think that I was over it, I realize I'm not. I found out yet another one of my friends is pregnant with #2. I had just gotten over finding out one of my friends was pregnant, then someone else gets pregnant. It's a never ending vicious cycle. And it makes it painfully obvious that I am not okay with not being pregnant. I hate this feeling so much. I wish I could just make it go away. I know that one day, somehow, Kyle and I are going to be amazing parents. I just wish I knew when that day will be.

Still nothing.

So I have STILL not heard back about my referral. But here's a secret. I'm okay with it. After two and half years of dealing with all of this that I am finally at a point of being ready for a break. I can't deal with it anymore. I don't want to. ::shrugs:: We'll take some time off, and then go back to trying again. But I don't know when.
Maybe it will happen on our break. Maybe not. I don't know. But I will say this. If it does happen, it was not because I "finally relaxed and stopped thinking about it". If it does happen, and I hear that from anyone, I will not be able to hold my tongue. Just so you know, if anyone would feel the need to tell me that.

Anyways, so that is that. I will try to post here and keep it updated with our lives. Not that it's anything exciting! Haha! Hope all is well!

Lame.

I still haven't gotten my referral yet! Last week, the woman I spoke to, Katie Holmes (hehe), told me to call her Thursday to make sure everything had gone through. Well, I called her and she said I wasn't even in the system. She gave me another number to call, Angela. I left a message there, but never heard back from her. Then I called my doctor's office to see if they had put it through. No answer, left another message. When Misty called me back, she said that she had talked to Tricare, and since we live so far north that the referral wasn't automatically approved. She gave me yet another number to call. But by that point, that office had closed. I was going to call it first thing in the morning. But before I could, I got a call from Katie, and she told me to call my doctor's office and to have them fax the referral form straight to her and she would put me in the system herself. So I did. And I think Misty sent it to her. Gosh! What a run around! Hopefully I'll hear something soon, and then I can set up an appointment! Phew! I'm just ready to meet a new doctor and try some new things!

Luckily, I have Kyle's schedule written out for the next few months so that I can pick a date when he is off too. Right now, he's on a two day on/two day off schedule. That should make it fairly easy to find a day where he won't be working. I hate that the fertility clinic is at Ft. Lewis, which is in Tacoma, which is an hour and a half away. That's going to suck a lot when I have to go at least once a week, if not several times a week. Yuck. But I'm willing to do whatever I have to do!

Happy Friday the 13th today and Happy Valentine's Day tomorrow!

Possible TMI

I ovulated this month! On my own! With no meds! Or at least, I'm pretty sure I did. There's no way of telling for sure without the ultrasound, but I think I did. I don't think Kyle will make it home in time for it to matter though. But still! I'm not going to do the meds again next month to see if it was just one of the random ones, or what.

Hopefully I'll be hearing sometime this week when I can get an appointment for the Ft. Lewis fertility clinic.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend! I am! It's a beautiful sunny day! And my Boo comes home in 2 days!! Hooray!